Heavy the Head That Wears the Visor, Coach Lasso
Updated: Nov 5, 2021
In season one of the Apple TV series Ted Lasso, he seems to be kind of a goofy, happy-go-lucky guy, heavy on the dad jokes, but in season two, we see a little more of the internal struggle that he has. He has switched careers from coaching football to coaching soccer. He has been ridiculed by the fans and has experienced an enormous amount of pressure and conflict. He is separated from his son and going through a divorce. He has unprocessed grief from his childhood. While season one shows us a coach that lets this pressure roll off his back, he sees a therapist in season two and we learn a little more about the burdens he carries. She says to him, "Heavy the head that wears the visor, Coach Lasso." (A play on words from a quote from Shakespeare). Others on the team also find therapy to be very helpful in sorting out their feelings.
All of us wear some type of heavy crown from time to time. There are times that everything seems fine, but other times that the responsibilities of our jobs, our families, or even our Christian walk can seem like we are weighed down by expectations of others, our own disappointments, and day to day frustrations.
Self care is being in touch with what your soul needs and providing space for whatever that is. This week, my soul needed some rest. Pastor Bonnie and the Nurture Team have graciously agreed to plan and lead the worship service for our All Saints Day remembrance on Sunday, so I decided to take a couple of days to get away and do some planning for the upcoming season in what has become a sacred space for me, the Warren Willis Camp and Conference Center. There is an organization within the Florida Conference UMC called Shade and Fresh Water, which provides clergy retreats for a very reasonable cost.
I have been going there for several years, which makes it the perfect place for me to experience restoration and healing, along with inspiration and courage. One morning, I had a good cry with my daily prayer group that meets on Zoom. Sometimes that release is just what is needed to clear the decks and reset the heart.
In the past few weeks, I find myself giving out some contact information for therapists to many who are having difficulty during this time. COVID has done a number on all of us and it is still not over. We are still being impacted by this virus that has turned our lives upside down. I thought I would share the contact information here in case there is anyone who could benefit from seeing a therapist.
I have also had a few couples who could benefit from talking with someone. As Ted Lasso says, “I think that if you care about someone and you got a little love in your heart, there ain’t nothing you can’t get through together.”
Please feel free to come and talk with me if you are experiencing some difficult times. Usually for something that requires 1- 3 sessions, I can help you find some direction. For a longer term solution, it is best to find a therapist. These are three that I am familiar with and can highly recommend to you:
In the meantime, can we be kind to each other? Can we remember that we are all brothers and sisters in Jesus and temper our harsh words and judgments with the love of God that recognizes that each person is God's beloved child? Can we also open our hearts to love and accept our differences?
Though we cannot think alike, may we not love alike? May we not be of one heart, though we are not of one opinion? Without all doubt, we may. Herein all the children of God may unite, notwithstanding these smaller differences. --John Wesley